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Heard it in a Love Song

I was sitting at the traffic light listening to my Audible book when the car radio decides it wants to play Pandora instead. This happens fairly often so I don’t make much of it in terms of meaning. Clearly my car and phone aren’t jiving all the time. The song that came on gives me head to toe chills. That song is “Shallow” by Lady Gaga and my boy Bradley Cooper. Of course you know that song. In 2018, you couldn’t hide from that song if you wanted. Why the chills you ask? It isn’t my favorite song or anything, although Lady Gaga and I share a birthday and Bradley is well, Bradley.

Every time I hear that song, it immediately transports me to a moment that was gut wrenching and occurred as part of a quest to get my mother home from Florida when she was seriously ill. The doctors in Florida said she had encephalitic West Nile Virus and I had consulted with a West Nile Virus specialist to get a second opinion. It took me days to get her records released from the hospital in Orlando and at long last, this was my moment to fetch them. I was driving up the Skyway to my office in the city to get the fax of her records to share with the specialist. Ahhh, the fax. Why medical professionals are so dedicated to the fax is fodder for another post, but this was how I was to get her records, so I went.

There is a point in the song where Lady Gaga really belts it out; I believe musicians call it ‘the bridge.’ But at that moment, driving up a literal bridge, as I was trying to create a bridge that would extend long enough to connect Jackson, Mississippi to Buffalo, New York to Orlando, Florida to properly diagnose my mother’s mysterious and ruthless disease, I lost it. This was in fact, my version of the deep end. No kids, we were not in the shallow anymore.

“I'm off the deep end, watch as I dive in

I'll never meet the ground

Crash through the surface, where they can't hurt us

We're far from the shallow now.”

And I absolutely felt the power of that lyric.

Back to the car and my chills, over three years later from that initial moment. That song caught my attention, brought me back to that bridge as it always does and was then followed up by another song which takes me to a specific person; “Do You Want to Know a Secret?” by the Beatles. This is absolutely a song my dad would sing to me, mostly because as a child I could never keep a secret. In that moment, I knew it was both of my parents reaching out to say hello.

Spirit loves to use music to get our attention.

In my family, music was a constant. My dad played music all the time. Some of my favorite early memories of him are from the basement with him playing music and me looking closely at all the album covers. He also had a box full of 45’s which I loved to go through. I especially loved how the vinyl felt on my fingers as I stuck them in the centers and spun them around. I can remember putting my finger on the 8-track player, feeling the warmth of the little red light which indicated the track and feeling like I was ET as the red light shone through my fingertip. Music is home to me. This makes it an obvious way for Spirit to connect because I am so laser focused on the music I listen to. I know many of you are music nerds too!

When you feel that shiver or tingle of energy while listening to music, I want you to know there is more to it. This is especially true if it is a song that makes you think of a loved one, or has a strong memory attached to it. Countless times in readings I have seen evidence that loved ones are sending songs to their people. They will show me a visual of you in your car, and music is playing. Sometimes I hear the song, sometimes I don’t but the image of what is happening is crystal clear. They are trying to connect with you so pay attention!

So, the question is: “How can you encourage Spirit to connect with you through music?”

First things first. Please open your mind to what you consider a sign. As I always say, if you’re thinking of them, they are thinking of you, especially if that occurs during a specific song.

On a related note, (see what I did there?) your guides will also send you messages with songs. This can be almost fun to play with if you are interested or looking for a sign. Sometimes, I will get in the car, or sit in my kitchen or wherever I am and say out loud, “OK Spirit, play me a song.”

I did this recently after I got off the phone with a potential employer. The first song that came on was “Material Girl” by Madonna. “Well, this can’t be my song,” I thought. Then I sort of giggled a little since I do have champagne tastes on what is currently a beer budget. That is totally something my mother the banker would have been keen to point out to me.

I would also consider creating a ritual. I firmly believe anything we make ritualistic will amplify. Perhaps it is playing a specific song when you sit down to meditate. Or creating a playlist of songs that remind you of your passed loved one. Maybe you have a collection of vinyl or CD’s that were from your person, or maybe you spent time listening to that music together or going to concerts. Or perhaps you are a musician and play a specific song in honor of your person. The sky is the limit, you do what comes to you! And if you can’t think of anything, just ask for it. Ask Spirit to send you songs and see what happens.

I have a rather unusual musical spiritual ritual which I believe amplifies my intuition and my connection to the Universe, my guides and my people. Every morning I wake up with a song in my head as I am sure many of you do. I write that song in my journal along with any dreams I am able to recall and then I play the song on Spotify. I save the song to a playlist of “dream songs” and I both listen to the lyrics for messages, and I also enjoy the litany of songs that follows as Spotify decides what I should hear next. It is one of my favorite things to do in the morning and I especially enjoy when it is a song I haven’t heard in a while. Those always feel more like messages than ear worms of what I may have absorbed recently.

Since I have started this little daily musical ritual, it has amplified. Some days I have more than one song so I will play them both. It also helps me recall my dreams. Like any muscle, the more you flex it the easier it is to use.

I encourage you to start paying closer attention to the music that is playing, especially songs you don’t pick yourself. This can include the rave music they play in the prepared foods section at Wegman’s and the yacht rock that plays at your dentist’s office. It’s all game for Spirit to connect with you.

I have said it before and I will say it again: WE ARE ALL CONNECTED. Your loved ones are as close to you as the nose on your face. They want you to feel their presence, so let music be an easy way to build that bridge.

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