“You need to cut off the remaining stalk, that will just drain it’s energy.”
This was the response of the wise plant lady at the Farmer’s Market this morning. I was feeling a little down and decided I needed some fresh cut flowers to treat myself. While I was paying for the flowers, I noticed a whole row of potted succulents at the check out.
Sidebar, I love plants. They usually do pretty well under my care, however I am not a plant person. I mostly am just nice to them and water them at regular intervals. I tell them they are pretty and how great they are doing.
I have no knowledge of plants; I don’t read plant books, and I am mostly just winging it.
Succulents, which are in theory, the easiest to take care of because they require little to no attention.
Little to no attention is not my speed.
And as a result, many a succulent has died under my care because I overdo it. I have learned to pump the brakes with the succulents and I do not buy them. Any succulents that I have were left here by my daughter and now they are mine.
Back to the Farmer’s Market. I was asking the nice lady about this succulent I have at home that is living its best succulent life. It has this big shoot coming out the top and of late is actually growing a whole new plant off of this shoot. I felt like this new plant needed some space of its own but I had zero idea how I would go about this and so I asked.

She advised me to put the new plant in dirt. Duh. I get it. She advised me that it would grow its own roots once it had some dirt to land in. This makes sense.
And then she said, “You need to cut off the remaining stalk, that will just drain it’s energy.”
This all tracks.
An hour or so later I am having a conversation with my daughter, the succulent abandoner, and I relayed this story since it was at some point her plant.
As soon as the words left my mouth, I had an epiphany.
“You need to cut off the remaining stalk, that will just drain it’s energy.”
Again, duh.
Part of my general malaise that prompted me to purchase my fresh cut flowers at the Farmer’s Market was brought on by an old situation that keeps rearing its ugly head.

I keep missing the memo on this situation.
And yet every time it happens I get mad. Well sad, because you know that mad is really sad’s bodyguard.
I had already hashed this old story out with my husband earlier in the morning. The thing that keeps upsetting me is really rooted (no pun intended) deeply in my childhood. I was able to tell him a story that was closely related to the one that was bothering me today and I think I choked up a little.
I know from years of EMDR counseling and trauma research that if something old makes you cry in the moment, you have not worked through it. It is alive in your body somewhere creating havoc as old stuck emotions do.
Another sidebar, the way our brains work is that things we have not processed live in the short-term memory. We replay the narrative repeatedly until such time that we can process it and it becomes less triggering or upsetting. It then can move into the long-term memory and go to sleep. For any mental health professionals reading this, please feel free to correct me but I trust I got the gist.
We need to cut off the remaining stalk because it is a waste of energy for the main plant.
In Christy speak, we need to put the old stuff to bed because it is taking up valuable space in your life. It is draining unnecessary energy away from you and the growth you have yet to do.
In the readings I do with clients, I see a set of common symbols. It helps me learn the spirit lingo so I keep track of these.
One such symbol is the spider web. During readings, I see people stuck in the spiderweb. They are frozen in time, waiting for an old spider (aka a threat) to come get them. Only the spider in question is dead and they are no longer in danger. They are unable to break free however and it jacks things up for them energetically. We get stuck in patterns energetically. It’s part of how we are made as people.
This symbol comes up all the time.
We all go through this at some point in time.

If we believe the wise plant lady, we need to just start and act as if we are ready. Plant the new sprout. Trust with some grounding that the new growth will take root. But first, remove the connection to the old so you can grow easier and healthier.
Ah if only we were as simple as the plants. I acknowledge we are much more complex and this healing stuff is hard. But I also acknowledge the plants and nature in general, can show us this can be done.
A little love and patience is all we really need.
Be gentle with yourself. Find some new ground, maybe someone who loves you enough to help you make the leap and cut the old stalk so you can get to healing.
Love, Christy
xoxoxo
PS Recently I was deep diving into my own Human Design chart. I learned that in my deepest melancholy, I am at my most creative. Glad this all works out! Happy to go be melancholy for the good of the order.
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