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Enjoy Every Minute

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I was cruising through the hot foods section at Wegman’s, our local and favorite grocery store, when I heard Whitney Houston blasting through the store: “I Wanna Dance with Somebody.” I thought to myself, this is the ultimate test of awesomeness, when we play your songs after you die. Same goes for books, movies, poems, even recipes. It is how we honor people in our own lives, not just artists and their outputs.


I have studied Whitney’s chart in astrology classes; she is a great example of phases and timing aspects. I am sure some of you have watched documentaries about her. Her life was filled with the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. Truly, by the time I got to the register, I was thinking how sad it is that she was lost so young.


And here it is, New Year’s Eve. We are all thinking about time. We are ending a year and starting a new one tomorrow. Time is such a weird concept which most of you don’t think about outside of the holidays. Given the work that I do, I think about time and cycles constantly. It is the way of the universe: “…to everything a season.”


It’s funny how some things change so quickly. Last week, if I brought a tray of cookies to my yoga class for my students, they would love that. This week, I would get a lot of “Ughs” and “Oh nos”. In just one week, we are all over the cookie. My dogs, for the record, are never over the cookie.


And yet, years after Whitney has passed, we love to hear her songs. Other artists are remixing her songs and somehow recording new tracks with her voice; she is probably making money for her family well after her passing. What a blessing. We begin to think less of her lows and highlight her highs, as it should be.


In the last week, I have gotten announcements of new babies and also the passings of others. I have seen so many people honoring those that are gone and whom they are missing in these pivotal times of the year. The highest of highs, the lowest of lows. That could be the tagline for these end of year holidays.


Some things are always good news; others never are. Maybe we can reframe that thinking? Everything has a timetable. We can’t always be living in the high highs. How do we honor the lows as well?


For example, from my seat at the table, our crossed loved ones are happy. They are not upset that they aren’t “here” anymore, because to them they are still, in fact, right here. They are enjoying their reunited connections. They have the capacity to be with us and help us in ways they couldn’t in life, they watch over all of us and can be with those they previously had to say goodbye to. They also have no concept of time on the other side. And perhaps, that is the best gift of all. Imagine not worry about squeezing things in, and to stop judging the use of time. And yet, we know our time here is so precious.


Thus, the great paradox of this being human. How do we do it all while also leaving behind regrets and judgement about not doing enough?


I sat in meditation preparing for a client when a friend popped in my space. She had recently crossed over this past fall and I felt her standing next to me. She told me, “It’s like every day is my best day.” She made me feel like each day could be the best day of vacation if she wanted, or a day spent alone under a tree reading a book. Whatever moved her in that moment, was hers to behold. Lovely. I am so grateful she popped in to let me know.


And yet, for those of us here, the passing of our people is one of the hardest things we will ever manage. It can be grueling and life changing, as very often nothing is the same after they leave this plane. We didn’t get enough time we think. If I knew this was all the time I had with (fill in the blank), I would have (fill in the blank.) How would you fill in that blank? Paid more attention? Spent more time with them? Treated every moment like it was my last? Their last? Is this really possible to do long term? I am not sure that is even our best move,


“At the death of every darkness, there’s a morning.”


a picture of a sunset and flowers with text
From my Signs from Spirit Deck

That is what the Rag and Bone man said this morning while I was prepping my playlist for my New Year’s Eve yoga class. I have heard that song 100 times or more, and today is the first time I caught that lyric. Is that the answer? How do we focus more on the morning and less on the darkness?


We are ending a year today. One that was undoubtedly filled with high highs and low lows as they all are. Will we replay things from this year? Certainly. We will forget most of it. Yes. As it often the case, we will probably over inflate parts and remember it all wrong. Because that is what we do as humans.


So how do we enter this next year without the stress of perfection and potential regret? I can’t answer that for you, but I will tell you how I am approaching this.


All we can do is live each new day with the best of intentions to be ourselves and love and cherish those we care about. I invite each one of us to live each day to its fullest, suspend rules and old beliefs about how things should be. Honor those who are here with us now. For those who have crossed, play the songs, make the recipes, honor those you miss and remember they are still right here. Ask them for help. All of your people, here and there. You are making memories and patterns for those you will one day leave behind.


Love yourself and love each other. The rest will fall into place.


I drove to yoga before I could publish this article and a song came on that I had never heard before. It was short, easily less than one minute which is unusual, even for Pandora.


It was called: “Enjoy Every Minute.” Yes, that feels appropriate. Thank you, Spirit, for summarizing in 3 words what takes me 3 pages to sort through.


I wish you all a happy healthy new year filled with love, joy and spaciousness. I wish you enough space to enjoy every minute. There is always beauty and magic if we look, even when things seem dark. May you also find timelessness, like our friend Whitney. May you leave a mark with your love and passions that persists.


We have a sign on the door of the bathroom at our cottage which has just one bathroom. The sign says: “How long a minute is depends which side of the door you are on.”


I think that fits here. We know what side of the door we are on. How are you going to spend your minutes?

 

Love, Christy xoxo

 

 

 

 

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